The Law of Attraction works.

The Law of Attraction has been around forever.

Stay positive and keep focused on your goals and the universe will align itself to give you what you want.

But happens when you end up in a situation like this: your account is overdrafted, you got approved for your dream apartment but they want $850 deposit and you just don’t have it. You’re afraid if you don’t act soon, someone else will come along and snatch up your apartment. Your no good, sorry ass baby daddy won’t help. Never has – at least not without bitching about it.

So, it’s kind of hard to stay positive and slip into a minor mode of depression. But where there’s  a will there’s a way, right?

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If we stop saying there is no money, and start focusing on how to make money, then you find the beauty of the Law of Attraction working for you!

Duo grinned as he dumped the last of the strawberries into the blender. He pressed the button to start the blender but to his surprise, it didn’t work. His grin quickly faded and was replaced by a look of confusion. He grabbed the instruction manual, reading it over, quickly realizing that the blender should be working. He pressed the button again but nothing happened. His look of confusion quickly turned into an angry one as he started pressing every button on the blender. “Oh come on! It’s a fucking blender, not rocket science! Heero! This shitty ass blender ain’t working!”

Hearing his name and a string of curses coming from the kitchen, Heero went to investigate. There, he found Duo, looking absolutely pissed, arms folded across his chest, and presumably glaring at the blender. “Duo?” he asked softly.

The braided youth didn’t even bother to turn around. “I just got this fucking piece of shit today and it ain’t working! God, now I have to go back to that fucking store! I swear, the cocksucker that sold me this defective piece of shit is going to get a fucking hollow point bullet in his right leg if he don’t replace this god damn, fucked up, no good blender!”

Heero didn’t say anything although he did lift a brow. He walked over to the box the blender was in, noticing the receipt next to it. He picked it up, noted the way too high sales price and a red stamp on the receipt that read:  ‘All sales final. No returns or exchanges.’

Okay, so there laid the reason behind Duo’s threat towards some poor salesperson. Heero sighed and walked over to the counter where the blender sat and looked at it for a moment. He reached behind it and held up the power cord for Duo to see it wasn’t plugged in. Duo’s eyes widened in surprise, as he looked at the power cable in Heero’s right hand. Glancing from the power cord to Heero, Duo noticed the way too amused look on his partner’s face and snorted, trying to cover up his embarrassment with nonchalance.

“I knew that,” Duo replied with a sniff, snatching the cord from Heero and plugging it in.

Heero shook his head and walked out the kitchen, the sound of his soft laughter covered by the loud whirring noise of the blender.

Don’t Settle!!!

I wonder what it feels like to be in love, to want to spend your entire life with just one person. I thought I was in love once but I really wasn’t. I saw things that weren’t really there and I wanted to be in love so I made myself believe that I was. All that relationship left me with was a child to take care of for the next 18 years.

Bad relationships can leave us feeling so bitter and then we meet people and they just never seem to live up to what we want in a person. It’s gets depressing, this whole cycle of dating and mating.

However, I don’t let it get me down. I was given advice once that I should settle. I said, “NO!”

And if anyone is reading this, I tell you the same thing. Don’t settle!

I know that I deserve someone who makes my heart sing, someone when just thinking of them makes me smile. I deserve that and I’d rather be alone that just settle for someone because I feel that’s all I can get.

Settling = defeat. And I am not defeated!

No… I know what my self-worth is and I refuse to settle. My heart has been ripped out, stomped on, and shredded to pieces. However, I keep picking up the pieces of my shattered heart and gluing it back together again and moving on. I wear my battle scars proudly.

This goes back to the law of attraction. If you start thinking negatively about love – if your every thought is: “Why do I always attract this kind of person?” then that’s all you’re going to get. Your negative thoughts are blocking your soul mate from seeing you.

Negative thoughts:

• I’m too fat.
• I’m not pretty enough.
• I always meet the same kind of person.
• He/She is only after sex.
• There aren’t any decent people left.
• The good ones are all taken or gay.

I mean come on! If these are just some of the thoughts that always run through your mind, do  you really think you’re ever going to attract the one you want? When you change your mindset, you change your reality. And this even includes love.

Hold No Expectations!!!

If you don’t love yourself, then do you really expect someone else too? If you meet someone and start off thinking negatively about the other person, do you really expect it to work? The best advice that I can give in regards to a new relationship is to hold no expectations. When you meet someone, take them at face value and don’t start picturing your future with them, don’t start assuming that he/she will do certain things.

In the end, if the person turns out to be someone you totally don’t like, it won’t sting so bad because you held no expectations to begin with.

I do that – I don’t hold expectations. In a recent conversation to my friend, I told her in regards to a guy that asked me out, “Yeah, I hope it works out but I realize I don’t know anything about this person. We click really well but still I have to learn what he’s like as a person and whether or not his goals and desires mesh with mine. So please stop saying he’s going to be my boyfriend or the one that I marry. I don’t need false assumptions put in my head to make me start looking for things that aren’t really there.”

As a general rule, I never assume that a person my friends date are their one and only. I only react and comment on what they tell me, even if I can see that their relationship will lead to a long term one. I never comment on that until they make it official. That way, I avoid putting false hope in their hearts.

It might seem to be contradictory: be positive but hold no expectations. It’s not really because those are two different things. It’s like playing the lottery. You hope like hell you win but you really don’t expect it to happen.

Some things in life you can control and others you can’t. You hope to one day learn how to fly a plane. That’s something you can control. You save your money, you research schools, and then you make dream come true. In that situation, we did not have expectations but rather a clear goal to focus on.

People, however, are not goals. We cannot control what other people will or won’t do. We might can influence them but we can’t control them. We can’t say, “My goal is to make the cute secretary down the hall fall in love with me.” Sure, you can try to make that happen but if someone doesn’t like you in that way, then all your efforts are for nothing.

Example 1:

(If you’re a guy, you can substitute Jimmy for Julie, unless of course you prefer Jimmy.)
I think Jimmy is really cute. I like his personality. I think I’ll give Jimmy a shot and see what happens. Jimmy turns out not to be a great kisser but it doesn’t really bother you because you didn’t expect him to be. You got a flat tire but you didn’t go calling Jimmy to come to your rescue because you didn’t expect that of him but are pleasantly surprised when you tell him about it later and he tells you next time that happens, call him. Jimmy doesn’t call you that often but you never expected him too and when during a rare telephone conversation with Jimmy, he mentions that you hardly call, which leads to a discussion over the lack of phone calls from both ends. (No expectations but still taking a chance with positive attitude.)

Example 2:

(If you’re a guy, you can substitute Bobby for Barbie, unless of course you prefer Bobby.)
I think Bobby is really cute. I like his personality. I’m so happy we’re dating now! I bet he’s a great kisser. First kiss… okay, so Bobby isn’t a great kisser like I thought he was. Oh, I think he’ll take care of me. Okay, so I just called Bobby and told him I had a flat tire and he told me tough luck. Bobby and I will be great together. Why is Bobby not returning my phone calls? (Disappointment and bitterness stems because Bobby did not live up to our expectations. You didn’t really know Bobby that well but you already assumed that he was a great kisser and you were disappointed that he wasn’t. You assumed that Bobby would help you after a couple dates but he didn’t. Now you’re a bit bitter, thinking, he’ll never make a good husband if he can’t help you. You’re thinking that you and Bobby are going to be a great couple but Bobby is only casually dating and now you’re angry at him when he never actually lead you to believe anything other than he wanted to hang out with you and have a good time, not make a long term commitment.)

Example 1: We did not expect Jimmy to help us with that flat tire until he stated that you should expect that of him.

Example 2: We expected Bobby to help with us that flat tire and when he didn’t, we got upset and disappointed in him.

See what I mean about those expectations? They will let you down every time.

LOVE YOURSELF!!!

I’ve discovered that the common denominator in all my failed relationships has been me. Check this out: I used to live in a really bad neighborhood filled with crack heads, drug dealers, sex offenders, uneducated and low income people. My first couple of relationships were guys that I met out of that neighborhood. Those guys did not want anything of out life and looking for a woman smart enough to make money but dumb enough to take care of them.

So I thought… maybe I should be pursuer. Men like aggressive women, right? So in this same low income area, I went after guys that I liked on first sight and still ended up with the same piece of crap. My close encounter with love came from that same neighborhood and we lasted five years – but it was five years of hell but the guy, in the end turned out to be only slightly better than the creeps I had been dating.

So finally, I break off that relationship and shortly after discover the law of attraction and how the power of changing your mindset affects the reality in you live in.

Well… I decided I had enough of relationships and trying to make one work and forgot about trying to find a guy where I lived. Eventually, the bitterness in me made decide all I wanted a guy for was sex. And those seemed to be the only kind of guys I met – the ones who wanted sex and even though I was getting what I asked for I still wasn’t happy.

And then I realized, I wasn’t happy with myself. I wasn’t happy being alone, I wasn’t happy with the way my body looked post-pregnancy, and I wasn’t happy that I kept meeting guys I didn’t really like.

Once I realized this, I took efforts to change my thinking. I learned to love myself. The moment I began to realize the beauty that existed in me, it was like men started seeing me differently me. I got guys asking me out all the time now.

So – I guess the point that I’m trying to drive home is this:

Love yourself first. Fall so deeply in love with you who are, that not having anybody doesn’t even matter and you will attract people who will want to find out that secret of yours… they will want to know why do you look so happy, why do you always smile, where did that extra bounce in your step come from, why do you radiate magnificence?

People will want you to bring that extra light into their world and as such will be attracted to you. I would not say this if I did not know for a fact it was true.

Don’t let bad relationships ruin future ones. Yes, you got hurt. I know it hurt. Cry about it. Scream about it. Do whatever you need to do but don’t dwell on it. Let it go and start learning to love yourself, and watch as these positive thoughts fill your head and transform you back into a person that’s wiser, happier, and filled with renewed hope for a brighter day.

What is the Law of Attraction?

If you google the law of attraction, you’ll find a ton of sites about it. Some will contain free information and others will ask you to pay. I advise you steer clear of any websites asking you to pay for information about the law of attraction. The only thing I ever paid for, in regards to the law of attraction, was the movie, “The Secret.” And the only reason I paid for it was because I couldn’t find it for free anywhere on the Internet. But I don’t regret the money I spent on it. The movie was very informative and inspiring.

But what exactly is the law of attraction? You will find a dozen websites with a different meaning. I think understanding the law of attraction is different for each person. Me… now, I hate when words get fancy. So after my study of the law of attraction, this is my definition of the law of attraction: karma and goal-setting.

I’m sure at some point in life we’ve all heard the biblical quote, “Do unto others as have them do unto you.” It’s a pretty powerful message and aligns perfectly with the idea of the karma. If you treat somebody, in due time, something bad will come back on you. The biblical quotes states that actions influence the treatment we receive from others. But what about our thoughts?

Our thoughts hold power. Ever heard some old timers tell you, “Don’t speak bad things into existence.”? You see, our words, our actions, and our thoughts all influence our reality. If we think negatively so much, then we invite negativity into our life because our thoughts influence our words and actions. Come on, admit it… you know you’ve had those days where you roll over in the bed and take a deep breathe, grumbling about having to get up and go to work. Every minute you spend getting ready for work, you’re cursing the day, wishing you had some sick time or something to take. And then you drag your sorry ass to work and the entire day drags on and you don’t feel like doing the work in the first place so you ‘effing up.

But, do you think the day would have been so bad if you woke up and thought to yourself, “I’m damn lucky to have this job”?

Whatever we think, the Universe gladly returns to us.

The law of attraction is also about setting goals. I’m sure you’ve taken a dozen classes, workshops, or read enough self-help books/articles to know that part of achieving your goals is writing down specific things you want to accomplish. But if you’re like me, you write those goals down, put them up, and then forget about them until you start cleaning up some months down the road. You read over your goals, realized you haven’t accomplished anything, and then throw the damn list in the trash. Or you write your goals down and post up in a spot you’ll know  you see them everyday but don’t pay a bit of attention to them.

Thought so.

To me, the law of attraction provides a better way to accomplish those goals. Instead of making a list, the law of attraction asks that you be grateful for have you right now. It asks that act as if you have already accomplished those goals and keep that attitude of gratefulness. You might ask what gratefulness have to do with it. Let’s think about in these terms:

Someone asked you to put together a care package for a person that has lost their home and has nothing. You spend hours in the stores shopping for clothes, personal hygiene items, food, and just little things to keep the person occupied. You package up the items you’ve purchased, out of your own money, very beautifully. You hand the package to the person and then take it and walk away. Not once did the person say thank you, I appreciate you, or anything of the sort. You wouldn’t feel the slightest bit insulted? I mean you’ve taken time and money that could have been spent doing other things to help someone you either don’t like or don’t know, and they can’t be bothered with a simple thank you?

So, if you feel someone should thank you for the efforts you put forth, why should God or the Universe be exempt from expecting gratefulness for the things that has come into your life?

Anyway, the law of attraction forces us to look at we have now and how to be grateful for the things we have now. It forces us to come to up with clear, concrete goals and to envision our lives as it would be once those goals have been achieved. And once you constantly think about the things you want and the ways you can accomplish the goals, the universe will deliver those things into your lap.

Now don’t expect immediate results. I’ve heard some people say they use the law of attraction to avoid red lights. Hey, it may be true but you really wouldn’t blame me if I skeptical? In my version of the law of attraction, these things don’t happen immediately. For example, a year ago I wrote about how grateful I was to have my current Windows XP computer and then I wrote how I was grateful to have new computer. I thought about getting a new computer, imagined what it would be like to have a new computer, and got excited when I could assist people who were using Windows Vista and 7 computer.

One year to date, and I have a new computer. You think, “Well, you could have just saved up for one.”  True, but at the time I didn’t have an extra penny to save. But once I aligned my thoughts towards positive thinking and reminded myself to be grateful of what I have, my actions automatically aligned with my thoughts so that I was able to accomplish my goal. And not only did I end up with one computer, I ended up with two.

I wrote myself a fake check for $6,000 and posted it where I could see it everyday. I knew that somehow I was going to receive a check a for $6,000. One year later, I get a check for nearly $10,000. Yes, that was completely unexpected and it took a year but I received it! So no, the law of attraction doesn’t happen immediately but it will help you align your thoughts towards positivity so that you unconsciously and consciously begin to work towards your goals.

I have never been happier since applying the law of attraction into my life and I encourage everyone, no matter your religious background, to try the law of attraction.

Okay, so I ended up not going out the other night and instead bought some doughnuts and finished off the anime series: The Count of Monte Cristo Gankutsuo.

I must admit the anime was quite thrilling but I got a little miffed at the ending. I did not like the way it ended as  it deviated away completely from the way the book ended.

I tried to watch Saiyuki: Reloaded as well. My God, the English voice cast for this series sucks ass! Now, I’m not usually one that complains when a series get new voice actors however the voice acting on this series don’t fit the characters wherever. I cringe everytime I hear Goku speak because he sounds annoying and Hakkai sounds like sneaky, arrogant bastard and Goyjo is okay and Sanzo! Oh my God, they took the rough sexiness from Sanzo’s voice and made him sound like a whiny old man.

I normally love English dubs but I opted for the Japanese version with English subs this time.

Have you ever wanted to do something but not really? I find myself being that way recently. I kinda want to go out but not really. I wouldn’t say that I’m a club person but my friend is going out to a club. I’m just tagging along for the ride.

I’m really beyond partying and drinking. And while those things are no doubt quite entertaining, not quite as entertaining as say, visiting a  museum or having dinner in a resturaunt with close friends. Yes, I am to really enjoy intimate settings.

Perhaps I think of clubs as a form of escapism. I’ve never of true friendships forged in the midst of sweaty bodies and drunken fools. Clubs are where the shallow conglomerate. I myself am more on the intellectual side. I suppose that some may find me lame or boring but I am who I am. It’s my nature and is something which cannot be changed.

I have no wish or desire to change that about me either.

However, I think this experience may help me. The best things to write about are those that you experience first hand. I wonder what strange and wonderful things will happen to me next.

I will start out by saying that I firmly believe that all good things are going to come my way. I am very thankful for all that I do have and all the things that I am going to receive in the future. Nothing, and I do mean nothing, is outside my grasp. Not even that elusive, damnable feeling of love or companionship. It may take a while but I believe that there is someone out there for me. Someone who is perfect for me. I didn’t say I was looking for the perfect person, mind you, just someone perfect for me. There’s a difference.

Anyway, like I said before, I move forward in life holding  no expectations. You know, Buddhist teachings, teach that we are the cause of our suffering. And that I can believe if I reflect upon my previous experiences in my life. So, contrary to popular belief, I am not a cynic. I am hopeless optimistic that’s actually grounded in reality.

Do I expect the next guy I meet to be Prince Charming? Hell no.

Do I expect to wake up one day and say I’m in love? Hell no.

Do I expect to wake up and be in dream house? Nah, not for real.

No expectations so when these things don’t work out I am not heartbroken or angry or upset. But do I believe I can have my Prince Charming? Yes.

I believe I am worthy of many things. I just simply choose to go with the flow living from one day to the next. I can’t worry about a future that was never promised to me and I can’t dwell in a past that I can’t change. Thankfully, I have no regrets. Of course, I have my fair share of shoulda, coulda, woulda – but I don’t regret the decisions that I’ve made or the way my life turned out to be less than fantastic.

Well, I am still no closer to figuring myself out. Granted, I feel more confident for trying and I feel like all good things in the Universe are going to come my way. I feel content, I suppose, which is good. Before, my heart used to ache with a certain loneliness I couldn’t even begin to describe.

This isn’t mere acceptance of my current relationship status. No, I really content. First, I came to realize that nobody loves me more than me. I am totally in love with myself and I will never treat myself poorly. And then, when I realized that other tend to cause me misery, I really stopped caring.

The year 2010 is completely and utterly about me. I am my number one priority this year. Honestly, I’ve never felt happier.

“Embrace nothing:
If you meet the Buddha, kill the Buddha.
If you meet your father, kill your father.
Only live your life as it is,
Not bound to anything.”

This quote by the Buddha has caught my attention and focused my attention to Buddhism. What powerful words!  I mean really, it is not often that something stops me in my tracks and makes me think.

Now, I’m not quite sure what this means. I’m not Buddhist after all; but I recognize it as an important part to my journey of self-discovery. One thing I have picked up from my brief readings of Buddhism is that we are the cause of our sufferings. And if I am honest with myself, I really am the cause of my own suffering. It’s so freaking easy to point the finger at someone else. However, the reality of it is that I caused my own suffering.

I must learn to hold no expectations. For it’s when things fail to meet my expectations that I am truly disappointed. My expectations is what cause me misery. When I meet someone, I suddenly have expectations of what I want out of the relationship and when in reality, I should have no expectations for someone I just met. Actually, I’m thinking of quitting the relationship scene altogether.

In the end, I find that enjoy time the most with myself. Other people like to force the expectations, their desires and wants on me, totally disregarding what I want. In the end, I can’t bring myself to care. Even sex is losing it’s appeal to me. Sex holds no meaning to me anymore; it’s like a boring ritual. I mean honestly I’ve had enough sex to last a lifetime.

And no, this isn’t depression, but rather me starting to realize some fundamental truths about myself. One being is that I desire a meaningful relationship. I want to get turned on by stimulating conversation, stroked until I’m shivering by artistic creativity, and brought to a full blown, mind shattering orgasm by intelligent debate. Until I find that, I will hold no expectations of men. So therefore; I’ll never be disappointed that someone doesn’t end up meeting expectations.

I want to live my life free, bound to absolutely nothing. I never want to feel obligated to anyone. I never want to depend on anyone. I never want to worry about tomorrow. I will only live for myself, doing what is right and best for myself. And I will start to live each day like it’s my last day on Earth, free, wild, and untamed. This is a vow I make to myself.

When I was younger, I had a much more interesting life. Or at least I thought so. Growing older means that things about you change. I know people fear change but change is oftentimes a good thing. And if you as a person never change, then life has taught you nothing.

Life has taught  me many things.

1. Not everybody is a friend.
2. Men are not knights in shining armor looking for a princess.
3. My feelings mean jack shit to the rest of the populace.
4. Working sucks like hell but is a necessary evil and employers really don’t give a jack shit about you, your health, your family, or your safety beyond what the government says that must give a jack shit about.
5. Volunteering within an organization sucks just about as much as working for your employer.
6. Children are not sweet and adorable; they are smart mouth, ungrateful heathens dependent upon your charity. Better to get a cat because at least they can’t talk back.
7. Clubbing was fun once upon a time but after awhile, the same people are there and it just gets boring and most men there are really just looking for a quick fuck and not a long-term relationship.
8. Politicians are dumb as fuck with the exception of a few notable ones.
9. Republicans are terrified of change as well as their own fucking shadow: “Oh God! A terrorist! Oops, it was just my shadow. Silly me.”
10. A degree doesn’t necessarily mean you are intelligent.
11. Because you work for Microsoft, IBM, fix computers for a living, or know more than 80 year old woman doesn’t make you a fucking expert on all things computer. <— Sorry. That’s more venting than life lessons; but you have no idea how sick I get of hearing people say, “I’m going to put you on the phone with my computer guy,” and then computer guy starts blurting out shit totally irrelevant to the situation just to make themselves sound smart.

Anyway, the point is that all things change and it’s okay for things to change.

And some things never change and that’s okay too.